OTOH, pleasure delaying can be seen mostly as a virtue of the lazy or of the cowards.
But still, from time to time, one should afford to get lazy (or even coward) for some time.
"Slow down"
Sunday, February 22, 2009
Saturday, February 21, 2009
Pleasure Delaying Principles
Most humans believe they could achieve happiness with the achievement of some simple, fixed, goals. How it really works in fact is that evolution made them all:
What stems from all this is that we're condemned to be unhappy unless we recognize and start understanding how those vectors work; from that point on, you become a Pleasure Delayer. You start to get happy before the actual achievement of one of those "happiness goals"; you start to realize that what really makes a human happy is the process of getting something not the result at all. We are just like a running bicycle; equilibrium is only sustained as long as you keep it running. We're just orbiting around the happy place: always falling towards it but never getting there.
The nice thing about becoming a "Pleasure Delayer" is that it becomes totally addictive. See this way: one wants event "A" to happen and knows how to accomplish that but at the same time he knows that as soon as "A" happens he will move on to worship event "B" and since this whole happiness chase is time-consuming, costs money, demands hard work etc, he decides not to let "A" happen at all! Since he knows how to make "A" happen or, and THIS IS VERY TRICKY, at least BELIEVES he knows, he enjoys happiness in the "pleasure delaying" fashion. It is true that he will eventually get to "A" (or try to accomplish it and then discovering that he was, since the beginning, unable to) but through the whole extended time span he was indeed happy.
Other important factor that boosts Pleasure Delaying is that "Nothing is as good as you can imagine". After 99% of the accomplishments or you'll find that it was not as good as you expected or you'll get used to it and thus lowering its "value".
- Believe happiness exists
- Always find something wrong, bad or, at least, unfinished in their lives (which makes them all, unhappy in some way)
- Always find a way, at least theoretical, to solve those problems.
What stems from all this is that we're condemned to be unhappy unless we recognize and start understanding how those vectors work; from that point on, you become a Pleasure Delayer. You start to get happy before the actual achievement of one of those "happiness goals"; you start to realize that what really makes a human happy is the process of getting something not the result at all. We are just like a running bicycle; equilibrium is only sustained as long as you keep it running. We're just orbiting around the happy place: always falling towards it but never getting there.
The nice thing about becoming a "Pleasure Delayer" is that it becomes totally addictive. See this way: one wants event "A" to happen and knows how to accomplish that but at the same time he knows that as soon as "A" happens he will move on to worship event "B" and since this whole happiness chase is time-consuming, costs money, demands hard work etc, he decides not to let "A" happen at all! Since he knows how to make "A" happen or, and THIS IS VERY TRICKY, at least BELIEVES he knows, he enjoys happiness in the "pleasure delaying" fashion. It is true that he will eventually get to "A" (or try to accomplish it and then discovering that he was, since the beginning, unable to) but through the whole extended time span he was indeed happy.
Other important factor that boosts Pleasure Delaying is that "Nothing is as good as you can imagine". After 99% of the accomplishments or you'll find that it was not as good as you expected or you'll get used to it and thus lowering its "value".
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